Being a single parent part I: My story

Most of us young people believe that being a parent means having finances to be able to take care of your child. But that’s not the case. We are somehow consumed by the idea that money can raise a child. But we forget the key fundamentals of becoming a parent.

‘It’s good to have money, how else are we to take care of our little ones?However money should not be the only primary objective. There are things that money can’t buy. Things like love, care, emotional and physical support’.

I had my daughter in my early twenties and it was the most difficult experience of life. Not only did I have to deal with becoming a first time mom. My parents were also not supportive of my situation. And my dad chased me out of the house and I had to go live with my granny. My mother later joined me for like two weeks after giving birth.

Money was never a problem as my father gave me money to buy groceries when I went to live with my grandmother. However, the thought of being alone with my grandmother was also more stressful than you would think. Mainly because I had never lived with her before and didn’t know what that would be like. All I needed was my parents support more than anything else and they were just not there. With everything going on around me I found myself depressed and lost.

‘Support is crucial in parenting because you can’t do it alone no matter how much strength you think you may have. Having a baby is a big deal, it’s an ongoing process and you’d rather have someone willing to learn in the process than a person who just don’t care so wise up with partners. Be sure to have a solid support structure when considering for a baby like family and friends as you all know partners aren’t so reliable these days’.


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