Taking charge in the bedroom

Taking initiative in the bedroom is like taking initiative at work. More often than not, it can pay off big time. Which is why when I decided my sex-life needed spicing up I looked at what I could do better. After all, I’m all about woman power and I figured I could take the reins and show my man some appreciation.

Below are some moves that put you in the driver’s seat and let you take control of the action. Not only is it liberating, but it can also be very pleasurable.

1. COWGIRL: Whilst facing your man, sit on top of him with your feet firmly planted on the floor/bed like you are doing a squat and move up and down. This classic position allows you to take charge of the pace and depth of penetration.

Which means you can alternate between shallow and deep thrusts to stimulate different parts of your vagina. To increase sensation, your partner can manually stimulate your clitoris – if you feel like giving him control, that is.
2. REVERSE COWGIRL:  Switch up your usual cowgirl by facing away from your guy and giving him an awesome view as you ride him. For even more control, lean forward or back to change the angle of his penis inside you.3. FACE OFF: This position is a must-try if you like being in charge but don’t want to sacrifice face-to-face intimacy. With your partner sitting on a chair or the edge of the bed, sit on his lap facing him with your arms around his back. Once in the saddle, you can ride up and down by pressing with your legs and knees.

4. HOVERING BUTTERFLY:  Give woman on top an oral twist. Hold onto a wall or headboard for support as you straddle his face. Then, you can let him do his thing. Or you can really take control by having him hold his tongue firm as you gyrate your hips to your liking.

So ladies, with these new move’s here’s hoping you’ll join me in taking control. After all, when it comes to sex, sometimes the little things like initiating, saying exactly what you want and planning a sexy all women led romantic night can be the switch up you need.

Also try tell your partner what you want and show him how you like it by demonstrating on him or moving his hand to the place you want to be touched. When you are done, don’t forget to let him know he’s doing it right and it’s really turning you on. After all, most men need reinforcement and positive feedback.

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